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My daughter received support only after writing a suicide attention Great Britain News

My daughter received support only after writing a suicide attention Great Britain News

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The parents of a teenager who killed himself a few weeks before his 16th birthday are fighting to remove a stigma around the conversation about suicide.

Jenni and Jack Swift also call for changes in the “broken system” in the hope of improving the way NHS supports suicidal children throughout the country.

Their daughter Evelyn was known for her random acts of kindness, including baking cookies for rescue services during blockage.

As an avid singer, she sang school choirs, and once performed the song Bear Needities at BBC Radio 2 for Chris Evans.

Mr. Swift said: “She was amazing. She was amazing. She was very nice and very intelligent. “

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A teenager with pink hair sitting in the car

Evelyn fought with mental health problems (Photo: Jenni and Jack Swift/ Calm)

The 37-year-old added: “She wasn’t without trouble, certainly towards the end of her life in teenage age, but she loved baking and loved to go for walks with us.

“Basically, she was just an amazing amazing person.”

Evelyn lost the fight against mental health problems in April 2022, four years after her parents first took her to the doctor’s surgery to get help.

Mrs. Swift said: “She became more and more withdrawn and low in the mood, so I took her to a family doctor to try to get support, but unfortunately it did not materialize at that time.

“When I took her to a general doctor, we saw a nurse and talked about her low mood, and the nurse told me before Evelyn, there is no point in referring to a child and teenagers (Camhs), unless she is suicidal.

“We didn’t talk about suicidal thoughts. I don’t think Evelyn had suicidal thoughts at the moment.

“But it was a nurse’s view that there was no sense referring to Camhs, because they would not accept her, it would not meet the criteria. To say that so openly before Evelyn had a really negative effect.

“We left without support and Evelyn felt that it was not worth helping and that she had to be more bad before she got help.”

They were told that there was an option of a service that supported children with “low” mental health problems, but this staff would meet Evelyn only during school.

The family standing on a sandy beach

Evelyn liked to spend time with her parents and her brother William (Photo: Jenni and Jack Swift/ Calm)

She did not want to take this option because she did not want people to talk about her in their school school.

The following year, Evelyn began to have panic attacks, but there was still no support in mental health services in her area.

In 2020, Mrs. Swift found a suicide note in her daughter’s bedroom, and after talking to her they returned to the GP surgery.

The nurse directed Evelyn to a low level of mental health and it turned out that she may have visits outside of school.

But these meetings appeared during Covid The period, so they only talked on the phone, and Evelyn’s condition worsened even more.

Thirty-nine-year-old Mrs. Swift said: “Evelyn really fought to build relationships with people on the phone. She really relied on the expression of her face to understand whether people were kidding or were serious.

“So these sessions were not, I mean that they are low level support, they were not particularly helpful and began to self -mutilation during this period.

“Then she was directed to Camhs, so after support for six weeks and six weeks of telephone conversations there was a gap when she was on the waiting list for Camhs.

“During the break for some time she had nothing that was very difficult, and at that moment we noticed more problems with her, such as her food and the image of her body.”

A girl with five birthday badges

Evelyn did random acts of kindness for people and loved baking (Photo: Jenni and Jack Swift/ Calm)

She was directed to the eating team, but was initially rejected before it was finally accepted.

And after writing from the hospital, Evelyn did not receive care after she should give.

Mrs. Swift says that during the investigation of the death of his daughter, the Koroner called these problems as omitted possibilities in which Evelyn could have had prior support.

Now the homeland she and Evelyn cooperate with Lincolnshire Partnership Foundation Trust to improve Camhs and there have been changes.

They will be happy to see changes in health trust in Great Britain.

Mrs. Swift said: “We worked with amazing professionals and Evelyn encountered several amazing practices, but unfortunately they work in a broken system.

“I mean that a crisis team is a really good example of the one in which we are a crisis syndrome is ordered until 19:00.

“Most of Evelyn’s crises took place at night, you know and the same for many young people. When their head touches the pillow, thoughts go through the head of what happened that day, experiencing some conversations, feeling more alone in the dark and darkness and fight more in the evening.

“So in the crisis team we came across brilliant practitioners, but the next morning they were not paid between 19:00 to 9:00.

“So there was a large period in which there was virtually no support, but it was not the fault of these practitioners.”

Asked what is needed to repair the system, Evelyn’s stepfather said: “There should be mandatory training in the field of mental health for healthcare professionals. That would be a good start.

“We also think that 24-hour crisis support is needed throughout the country.”

Mrs. Swift added: “A and E is a great one in which I would say that there is very little understanding of mental health problems.

“But there is nowhere else that young people can go when they are in crisis, if there is no crisis support.

“Attempts at support are also a real barrier to young people. I know that in Lincolnshire it is something they are looking for.

“I don’t know if they are doing it all over the country, but Evelyn felt very rejected when she didn’t reach a certain threshold to get support.”

Lincolnshire Partnership NHS Foundation Trust offered his “deepest condolences” after Evelyn’s death and are “involved” in improving mental health resources.

Eve, Baird, Operational Director of Lincolnshire Partnership NHS Foundation Trust said: “We are still expressing our deepest condolences over Evelyn’s death. This tragic event strengthened our commitment to improving mental health support for young people in our community and we are grateful to Jenni and Jacek for their further support in our transformation program.

“As part of the work we do, we now offer a 24 -hour crisis hotline for young people, their families and guardians, as well as 24/7 support in local emergency departments for people presenting the crisis. We are still working with our commissioners to provide support in someone’s home outside the current operating hours seven days a week, from 8.45 to 19:00.

“We know that the family received inaccurate information about when and how they could access our support, so as part of our transformation work, we worked with colleagues in the field of primary health care and education to promote the understanding of the variety of services that we can offer. Children and young people can now take place or receive help and tips through our help 24/7 HERE.

“We look at all our support paths for children and young people to ensure that we can offer care and advice at the earliest opportunity, at the time and place that work for them, and we invest in our teams to help fight it further. As we would like to expect – and we start to see positive improvements. “

After the death of Evelyn, her mother and stepfather founded a social initiative called Evelyn’s Butterfly Effect, and in her memory they perform random acts of goodness.

They also work with a charity campaign to prevent suicides against life (peace), that people know how to talk to children about suicide.

As part of this, They worked with Calm on a movie called Evelyn. Told by Mrs. Swift, he examines the destructive influence of young people’s suicide on families.

They are too Supporting a charity care setFree online resource aimed at equipping people with practical skills to prevent suicides.

This leads people for four steps – check, as they are, they remain close and expert – and includes the practice of talking and tips on how to ensure the safety of a young person in crisis.

Samaritans can be reached around the clock, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

If you need an answer immediately, it’s best to call them by phone. You can contact them by calling 116 123, sending E -Mila [email protected] or visiting www.samaritans.org